i started writing this post a couple of weeks ago. unbeknownst to me, dusty started reading it over my shoulder & got all pissed off. you know, instead of initiating a conversation about it, just got pissed off & hateful towards me. so i stopped writing it & haven’t felt like trying to write ever since. last friday, i made dusty leave again. go back to wisconsin. again. & i realized i would rather be alone than to be put in a box. i would rather be alone than to be told who i am. i would rather be alone than to not be heard. to not be understood.
i don’t know if he reads my blog or not….i guess i will find out.
what do you do
when the one person
you always want to tell your thoughts to
what happened today
what happens when you no longer
talking to that person?
when you feel it might be a bad idea
to open up
to that person?
what happens when the person
you used to wait for to walk through the door
what happens when you start dreading
his walking into the room
when you feel like you have to guard yourself
for surely he will find something
some flaw in you to burst wide open
and leave to spill onto the floor
as he walks away
the other day i was in tears. in the barn. yelling at the sheep. the other day i let my sheep get the best of me. i wondered–loudly and with a great many curse words–what i was even doing here, on this half-assed homestead, trying to get milk from meat sheep who clearly hate me, running from me, and in the case of tyler durden the ram, stalking me and ramming me in the thighs until i cry.
what am i doing?
the other day, i tried to talk to dusty.
stop. right there. that was my mistake. i tried to talk to dusty. i tried to talk to dusty. dusty. who on the day of my brother’s funeral (8 years ago) asked me what was wrong, and when i told him i was upset that he didn’t bother dressing up for my brother’s funeral, he responded, “well look at what you’re wearing.”
he likes to ask me what is wrong, and then punish me for having feelings. lately he asks me why i don’t respond when he asks, “what’s wrong?” but the weird thing is, i don’t remember him asking me. i think i have learned to tune him out so that i do not even hear him ask because then, if i hear him, i want to answer…and then i get punched right in my emotions.
so i don’t even hear him anymore.
i don’t look forward to seeing him.
i don’t tell him anything.
or i try not to. i can be a bit of a blabbermouth, forgetting who i can & cannot trust with my feelings. i am like that. soft in the head.
so i tried to talk to dusty, about “us.” it was, of course, somehow interpreted as an assault on him…maybe it was an attack. i don’t know the fuck anymore. but i tried to talk to him. i used the wrong words. then it got ugly.
he accused me of being a facebook junkie (i’m not)
and i responded by slamming shut his video game
and possibly breaking his laptop?
he murdered three of my potato plants.
and tried to knock the internet dish off of the roof
with a steel t-post.
this is where i stopped writing.
his laptop is fine. my potatoes are trying to recover, but look like my heart feels. wilty & broken. undernourished. struggling to survive.