today my brother mike would be 55. he died 10 years ago on december 19th. this photograph is from the last time he & i & the rest of us were all together in one place…my wedding. thinking about him, i started this memoir….
the six of us assumed we were blessed for the mere fact that we survived our childhood.
survived our father passing out at the wheel.
survived drunk motorcycle rides with dad.
survived our father sending us into precarious places to do dangerous chores.
survived our father, drunk, angry, & armed.
survived family adventures. camping. hiking on natural bridges…up to starved rocks…into mammoth caves…all though the grand canyon.
survived water skiing behind jet engined motor boats.
survived a back yard pond with a homemade diving board in the summer and ice skates in the winter.
survived snow mobiles, three wheelers, four wheelers, chainsaws, log-splitters, tractors, riding on running boards, riding on trailers, riding in the beds of pick up trucks.
survived no baby seats. no seat belts. cars driving fast down country roads so you can catch that stomach dropping hill just right.
six almost died when he had a head on collision with a gravel truck while riding his four wheeler around that one blind corner of the gravel pit. but six was the only one of us to wear a helmet (pants & shoes as well!) the helmet did not survive. six had a broken jaw, broken cheek bone, his femur snapped in half.
but he survived.
which was further proof that we were blessed.
one died when he was 45, and his death shattered all of us. it was beyond comprehension that he could really truly be gone.
some of us were quick to go numb. go into denial. some of us threw ourselves into the mystery, the drama of his death. some of us searched for someone to blame…anyone to blame.
i had talked to him on his birthday just 19 days earlier. he sounded sad. stressed out. we had so much family drama happening as well as the drama he kept hidden from us. his one consolation was that he had gotten a red velvet cake for his birthday. his family left for a ski trip, but they had baked him a red velvet cake first.
the same cake that two always got on her birthday when we were growing up because two’s birthday is just before valentine’s day.
all these years one had been coveting two’s cake just like i had always coveted five’s cake. she got devil’s food every year while i was stuck with angel food–because i was “the good one.”
one finally got his cake. and then he died. and his wife and four kids would have to forever feel like shits for going on a ski trip on his last birthday….
my favorite way to make fun of one was to mimic our phone conversations. “so what else is new?” he would ask incessantly making me scramble for newsworthy tidbits to tell him.
i was on the phone with two around the time one’s plane crashed down. i was making fun of one again. i had just gotten his yearly–& much anticipated–christmas newsletter.
a newsletter so crisp & professional as it was designed & produced by a proclaimed “web guru.” yeah, my brother.
between the smatterings of “keep christ in christmas” & photos of his beautiful children doing all the things beautiful children with money get to do were articles lamenting the newly elected president and calling for strength & endurance for this upcoming apocalypse of a democrat in the white house.
thanks to the thorough brain-washing of my completely insane & devoutly catholic mother, one literally feared the evil baby-killing agenda of the left wing.
to me, a self-proclaimed anarchist, one’s christmas newsletter was hysterical in every sense of the word.
so i ranted about this to my sister as one died…for his beliefs.
so this is the beginning. i hope to write more. another work in progress. hang onto your butts.
What do you currently use instead of MS Word? I use LibreOffice, and I’ll be honest, I kind of prefer it to MS Word (which I use exclusively at work).
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i’ve just been using google docs. how much is libreoffice? i have a bunch of stories in word that i am unable to edit (unless i take them over to google docs)
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It’s free…
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free is the perfect price.
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This was a pretty intense read.
I agree with the above. Libreoffice is free and it will open Word docs. I dislike Word, it’s overrated.
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awesome–good to know.
i struggle to write memoirs because a lot of my life has been ridiculous. i am trying to figure out the best way to translate that ridiculousness to a believable & readable memoir.
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Just write it as it happened. Your personality will come thru and that alone will draw people in.
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that is so nice of you to say! thank you 🙂
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You’re welcome.
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I was going to say what River said: this was intense… but also beautiful. Poignant. You’re wonderful emje. And I so appreciate you.
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thank you! ❤
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(((Hugs)))
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❤
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Thinking of you… not sure what else to say xx Oh yeah, your brilliant 😁x
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❤
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