every day
tears my heart
to shreds
every day
i some how manage
to survive
even though i long
to just lie down
& not get up again
could there possibly be
anything harder
than being a mother
& seeing the worst of yourself
broadcast by innocents
as you try so fucking hard
to be your best for them…
but it seems
no matter how hard you try
to be beautiful for them
it’s the ugly bits they pick up
it’s the ugly bits they collect
as if it is their purpose
to only mirror
the you
you wish you weren’t.
i had an identity crisis when i became a mom. i didn’t want to be my mom, i didn’t know how to be me, i was grasping for who i was supposed to be (i even got a mom bob and wore capris for a bit.)
looking back,
as a fictional mom, i was doing pretty good…as a mother.
but i was betraying who i was inside.
and eventually motherhood started to destroy me.
a battle ensued.
i think it might still be going on.
so i gave up on being the perfect mom. i tried to find balance.
being a mom and being myself.
it’s an ongoing thing. like everything else. a work in progress. maybe one day i will know what it feels like to feel content with myself as a mother and as a human being.
maybe.
Reading this post, I think I can understand what went on in my mother’s head when it came to me. She was a one of a kind person, and so was I. We traded bad words a lot, but I did love her.
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i imagine my kids in the future & wonder what they will think of me. i hope they are able to understand how hard it is to be both human & a mother ❤ thank you for your comment. it is good to hear.
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This is perhaps one of the most powerful and thought-provoking pieces I have read in a while. I am so glad that Gorman helped to introduce me to your work; he certainly has an eye for true talent. I look forward to reading your future posts.
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thank you!
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You are very welcome.
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